God wasn’t kidding, when he told David that the sword wouldn’t depart from him. God, by the way, never kids, never bluffs, never says something that He doesn’t mean. And for David, the “hits” keep on coming.
When is a victory not such a victory? — You can’t blame David for being crushed with grief. Not only was he probably grieving as only a parent can — “What did I do wrong?” — but he had suffered the grave offense of fending off a coup from a son (“My son wanted me dead?”), and despite orders to the contrary his son had been deliberately executed by Joab (David’s anger at Joab had to have been unimaginable). Nevertheless, the people that fight for you and have won the battle for you, need to see you satisfied with the victory — not grieving it! Thus, David’s grief was setting the table for even more trouble. David did manage to recover enough to come out and congratulate and thank his troops, but he had waited long enough to cause some to harbor some resentment — which later turns into another coup. Leadership has a number of burdens that often go unnoticed by their followers. We would do well to allow them to grieve their losses, suffer their personal pains, and let them give reasonable attention to their families; they and their families are, after all, human, too.
Joab, the loose cannon that won’t go away — David had put up with Joab the loose cannon, ostensibly because he had to politically. By David’s own admission, he felt too weak to control Joab. But Joab’s deliberate disobedience and vicious execution of Absalom was too much for David to bear; he tried to marginalize Joab by promoting Amasa as “general” over his army. In only a chapter later, however, in a surprising turn of events, Joab in what appeared to be a friendly greeting to Amasa assassinates Amasa! The loose cannon continues to wreak murder and mayhem with relative impunity. You begin to understand why David said he felt too weak to deal with Joab. Truthfully, he wasn’t, of course, but the faith-filled David who took down Goliath had begun to rely more on swords and troops than the Lord. Trust in the Lord, leaders, and do the hard but right things.
Covenants last — It had been approximately 450 years since Joshua had mistakenly made a covenant with the Gibeonites not to destroy them. Such a solemn promise might have been easily forgotten by men, but not by God. And when Saul had somehow violated that covenant (we’re not told what the event was), the God who watches and remembers and calls men to account demanded that justice be satisfied. This demand, however, really put David in a difficult situation, since David had made a covenant with Jonathan not to destroy his family. Thankfully, David was able to navigate a course that satisfied both covenants — even if it was somewhat bloody and sad. The point here is that covenants are sacred. “So?” you may ask. Marriages are covenants! And we are in covenant with God and, by extension, with one another. We don’t give up on these things, even if the world deems them to be less important than our personal happiness or prosperity. Work it out.
A tip on how to resolve a conflict — Those who were dissatisfied with David as king after Absalom’s attempted coup appointed a new king over themselves, a certain Sheba. His “reign” didn’t last long after David’s army pursued him to a city named Abel Beth-maacah. As the legitimate kingdom began to cast up a siege ramp against Abel Beth-maacah and began to make some progress in breaking through the wall, a wise woman called to Joab for a little conversation, and we get a chance to see how conflict is often avoided by simply discovering the underlying interests. Once Abel Beth-maacah found out what would satisfy Israel’s army, they happily complied in short order, and a much larger tragedy was averted. “Positions” are different from “interests”. The “positions” were “We’re attacking you,” and “We’re defending ourselves”. “Interests”, on the other hand, were “We want the rival king dead,” and “We don’t really want to fight you.” You’d be amazed how often the discovery of and the addressing of “interests” will either avert fights or solve them.
See you tomorrow, Lord willing.
David’s tragic troubles begin — 2 Samuel 13-15
Yesterday’s reading included this significant predictive punishment for David, “‘Now therefore, the sword shall never depart from your house, because you have despised Me and have taken the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be your wife’” (2 Samuel 12:10, NAS95). Starting in 2 Samuel 13, the dominoes start to fall…
But before we actually get started on application and meditation texts, I thought that a few textual notes might be useful to you as you read today’s reading.
Missed opportunities — David missed a opportunity to avert a major tragedy in his life and in the history of Israel by neglecting justice in his family. Now, of course, it could be strongly argued that this was a punishment from God in fulfillment of 2 Samuel 12:10. But it’s also obvious that David sort of invited this trouble on himself. If David had punished Amnon properly, Absalom would probably not have murdered Amnon, probably not had the need flee to Geshur, and attempted a coup d’état out of what appears to have been fueled by anger over the whole event. The message for us? Parents or anyone in authority, you cannot just wish bad situations away. Sticking your head in the sand hoping that it will all blow over is not a good leadership tactic. It will lead to feelings frustration, sometimes outrage, and almost certainly rebellion.
But you know, there are more what-ifs to consider here. What would have happened if Absalom had stayed in Geshur? Did Joab’s kindly intended attempt at reconciliation only make things worse? What had happened with Amnon and Tamar was utterly wrong, but Absalom’s solution was flatly wrong; and Joab’s well-meant but ultimately enabling efforts to reconcile David and Absalom where there was no repentance was a mistake. Take warning, then, when you try to make peace that you don’t make matters worse by giving any party a “pass” on making things really right.
Or better yet, what would have happened if David had not committed adultery with Bathsheba? Would Amnon have had a better example set for him? Was it neglect of moral teaching, discipline, or good example that made Amnon think that such an heinous act could ever be OK? David was certainly not responsible for Amnon’s sin in the technical sense, but Jesus teaches us, “A pupil is not above his teacher; but everyone, after he has been fully trained, will be like his teacher.” Luke 6:40, NAS95. Parent, teacher, preacher, elder, beware.
See you tomorrow, Lord willing.